Broken Relationship - Phases

Two words well define the entire cycle of attachment in love. From the time a man and woman fall in love and till the time they separate.

Attachment & D e t a c h m e n t

The beautiful journey of love travels through the following..

1] Attached Attachment
2] Detached Attachment
3] Attached Detachment
4] Detached Detachment

Attached Attachment: Probably the most beautiful phase in love where romance is all over and we are ever charged up. Emotions become multi amplified ending up in more love or discord which in itself churns out more love. We will miss our loved one every second of the day. We talk to her/him every minute of the day within ourselves. World outside looks more like a background for our love story.

Detached Attachment: A gradual progression from Attached Attachment. The initial crave for each other is lost. They start seeing each other's weaknesses or rather those characteristics which they are not very fond of. This makes it tough for them to want each other every moment. Though underlying love still exists, they would prefer to keep a comfortable space between them which is in the better interest for their love to survive.

Love if not broken travels only till these two phases and fortunate are those who don't go beyond this..

Attached Detachment: This is a painful phase. There is no attachment between the couple anymore. Still they act as if they are attached. For whom? may be, to be loyal to the love which once existed between them! This becomes even more painful if one of the couple is still in any of the previous phases and the other has moved forward. Because he might still love her, but he/she would know very well that she/he does not love him/her anymore. People say that love is blind which is so incorrect. May be love makes one blind as in one might not be able to see the world around. But love makes you see even the minutest of the nuances of the person whom you love.

Detached Detachment: No more formalities in here. Couple would have realized and accepted that there is nothing left between them. They would feel it is better to keep away from each other for good than withstanding a boring and highly compromised relationship.